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Valentine’s Day Contemplations: Am I boring?

Hey, friiiends! It’s your girl Ssssssssssss.

Story time πŸ˜€ In November, my friend and I went to this really old club (my parents went there when they were younger). People of all ages go there which is interesting.Β A guy came over and tried smalltalk and boy, did he suck at it. I am the most awkward person ever when talking to guys which made it worse as did the fact that we were completely different persons. At some point he came to the infamous “What are your hobbies?”.

I haven’t told anybody about the blog, so I wasn’t going to mention it. I told him I liked video games and Netflix/movies and reading and he was like “I can’t imagine a girl like you being that boring.”. That it hit home. My entire night was screwed, I felt like sh*t. Because of my anxiety, I don’t normally go to clubs or parties. It bothers me that going out, even for dinner with my friends, is so hard for me to enjoy. I’d been proud of being at this club, talking to guys without feeling the urge to run away and hide and he took that away from me. He didn’t know me, he had no idea who I am. Why would you say something like that? In no situation ever is it okay to non-jokingly tell someone you think they are boring.

What does “a girl like you” mean? Are there expectations of a stranger I have to live up to? Am I boring? Do I have to defend what I like? No. Nobody is boring. If you are on of the people who prefer having a night in over a night out, that’s not boring. I am one of them. That’s me, that is who I am. I am not boring just because I don’t conform to someone’s expectations of a student in her early 20s. I am writing about this because it took me three months to get over this statement of a guy who didn’t know me and I never saw him again. And I think it is important to always remind yourself of your worth, no matter your gender or age or whatever. Which is what I want you to do.

happy valentine's galentine's shmalentine's dayToday is Valentine’s Day and I don’t have a valentine. I would be lying if I said IΒ didn’t care. But I know it’s not because I’m boring. It’s because it’s difficult to meet someone when you struggle staying at a bar for longer than 10 minutes. Valentine’s Day is the day the “haha you’re single, have fun on your own, loser – oh wait – that’s not possible, you can only have fun with a partner. Sucks to be you. ok bye” spirit is shoved right into our faces. But guess what? Having fun is exactly what I’ll be doing. What you’ll be doing. What we well be doing. I don’t know about you but I will enjoy myself reading, playing video games, watching Netflix and nobody is going to stop me πŸ˜€ I sound bitter, maybe because I slightly am tbh. But I will have a great Valentine’s Day with the one person I will always be with: myself. And I hope you are having a great day as well, whether you are single or not; because you are awesome and you deserve it! And whether you’re single or not, it is always important to remind yourself of that and knowing your worth!

Have a lovely day! Until next time!

S. xx

 

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18 thoughts on “Valentine’s Day Contemplations: Am I boring?

  1. You are not boring 0 variety is the spice of life if we all liked exactly the same things the world would be a very boring place. Side note – Valentine’s Day is stupid (I’m married and I think so) it’s a day made commercialised for the lull between Christmas, January sales and mother’s day to get people to spend money – cards, chocolates, food, alcohol the works. Ridiculous. Huge pressure on couples to conform and spend money (I’m beyond skint so I’m doing something different this year) and makes single people feel like crap. Bah humbug (or whatever the Valentine’s equivalent is).

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  2. I think you should not be bothered of what people think of you, and especially those who don’t know you. We all have good and bad sides and I am very sure that you are just a lovely, perfect human being x

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      1. This is the best thing to do. You matter and who doesn’t like you… I can’t swear πŸ˜‚πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

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  3. Poor you! What an odious individual. I am sorry that you had such a nasty experience. People like that can completely shatter all self-confidence, but there are so many more (I hope) that try to build it up instead. If it’s any consolation I will not be celebrating Valentine’s Day today – my husband i as unromantic as they come and I have learned to accept it, and move on. I am just feeling lucky that it isn’t my turn to wrestel our screaming toddler to bed tonight…how’s that for romance πŸ˜‰ Take care of yourself and have a happy β€˜you’ day. We do not need partners to make us feel good about ourselves πŸ™‚

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  4. I hate ‘a girl like you’ comments because usually they are from people who don’t know you, so how would they know what a girl like you is even like?! What a twit! Hope you have a lovely Valentine’s Day doing what you love! I’ll be doing the same, watching Netflix and eating chocolate. xx

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